Things i have learned about grace so far.

it is hard

every one believes in it, when convent, or when they want to.

to apply it across the board will require not only a paradigm shift, but a total world view shift, especially in mission recovery work.

the only way grace can avoid becoming enabling is by relationship, there for, the more grace some one requires, the more relationship we must have with them. if we get away with something, just for the sake of getting away with out punishment, it is for nothing. but if we get away with something, and see and realize just how much it costs some one else, or hurts someone else, then we may learn something. the one giving the grace must be ready to show just how hurt or disappointed or sad they are by the actions of the one getting the grace. i am not talking about guilt tripping, but really showing the consequences of actions. if we don't know the extent of pain we are causing others, how will we ever want to change. There for, those of us who will be administering grace on a professional level, will also have to be very transparent and forth coming with our feelings toward others, both good and bad. this is going to be a very emotionally exhausting process, but worth it.

it is hard.